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A Message from Tiffany Bass Bukow, Founder & CEO of
MsMoney.com:
Throughout my life, I have enjoyed significant financial
success and endured surprising financial failure. Dealing
with the success was easy. Dealing with the failure
was not, especially when it was unexpected. I have had
to challenge my values and work hard to continue to
succeed while learning from failure. And I discovered
that friends who had been in similar circumstances were
my greatest source of motivation.
I hope that MsMoney.com's Success Stories provide
you with the same inspiration I received from my friends.
Each week, we will profile a remarkable woman who has
confronted financial obstacles and overcome challenges
to lead a happy, financially secure, and meaningful
life.
If you'd like to share your success story, please e-mail
us at editor@msmoney.com.
Out of the Supermarket and Into the Stock Market
By Kathy Buys
Over
the course of the last several years, it has become obvious
to me while teaching seminars and classes that many women
believe that people who invest in the markets were "born knowing."
I am living testimony that it's simply not the case! As you
read more about my starting point, you'll have a hard time
believing that I am now a successful speaker, author, and
owner of my own financial services firm. In fact, sometimes
I find it hard to believe myself!
While it pains me, I must confess to being an aging Baby Boomer.
Like many in my generation, I was reared to believe that men
do the providing, and women are provided for. Remember, mine
was hardly the Golden Age of strong female role models on
television. While "I Love Lucy" was outrageously funny, Lucille
Ball was hardly a model for women taking charge of their financial
future. This was also the era of "Father Knows Best"--doesn't
the title say it all?
Continuing on the path into womanhood, my college experience
fed right into my previous beliefs. I can still remember my
college counselor asking if I would rather be a nurse, teacher,
or social worker. There was one woman in the business program,
and we all thought she must really be odd. Given my choices,
I opted for social work.
After college, I met the man of my dreams. He was in the
process of getting an MBA, and I was getting an MSW. He seemed
to know everything about the mysterious world of finance,
and I generally had no clue what he was talking about. It
went without saying that he handled all the investing and
money management in our household. I don't mean to sound like
a pathetic victim--I thought this was an ideal situation.
He would do the work of investing and understanding our finances,
and we would grow rich.
Sadly, I probably would have continued on this course were
it not for one little fact I hadn't programmed into my life
plan. My dream guy became a nightmare, and the marriage ended
in divorce. At that point, I didn't know a stock from a sock.
I was so ignorant that I had never balanced a checkbook and
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